EXPECTATIONS

“Expectation is a root of all heartache”.

High expectations have ruined people’s lives. 

You know how we have all our lives planned, let’s say laid out for ourselves. Typical one would be: finish school, get the job or start a business of our dreams before 30, get married, have kids etc. We all expect life to go accordingly. For some, things will work out according to plans. For some, things may not at all work (means, life will take a different route). There is no need to get all worked up or get frustrated/depressed. You need to remember things may not always work your way and accept. We all have dream jobs, education, business but sometimes we end up some place else. I believe you can learn to make use of whatever it is you end up doing. And sometimes, things just tend to delay. 

High expectations have ruined people’s relationships. 

Having high expectations that your relationships will turn out to be according to how you vision or want can be a dangerous thing, not only to your heart but your mind as well. You have to consider that there is another person involved in that relationship. 

There are two things to remember; 

First, people are different and one can’t change a person if he/she hasn’t decided to change on his/her own. 

Second, relationships tend to have phases (if am to draw a graph, relationships don’t have a constant line). The beginning may be perfect and this is where high expectations are built. Then you get to know each other, things change. (Some say, You get comfortable with each other). The honeymoon phase is over and it’s not the same. Frustrations start. The only way you can have peace is only if you accept things as they are or choose to walk away. However, don’t accept bad habits such as any type of abusive behavior etc. 

Depression/hurt/stress (whatever else) comes when you don’t get what you expected. Being optimistic could be a bad or good thing depending on if the situation favors you or not. It’s good that you be prepared for anything, know how to differentiate expectations from reality. 

“Simple things become complicated when you expect too much”

Author: Rachel Stephen